But Chris went into prison in Virginia at 18, then came out to find you can't vote as an ex-con. Then in , he moved to New York, where the law's different. These rules are arbitrary and vary from state to state. In Virginia, some felons can apply to get their vote back ; in Florida and Iowa, all felons lose the vote permanently; in Maine, no criminals lose the vote, and they can even vote while still in jail.
These restrictions first popped up back in the s and '70s. This was a time when the country was deciding how to handle 4 million newly freed slaves, and when the 15th Amendment gave them the vote men, at least , legislators suggested taking it right back by denying the vote to felons, since ex-slaves kept being arrested for bullshit reasons. Today, the restriction keeps more than one in eight black men from voting nationwide one in five black adults, in some states.
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They block 6 million people total, enough to change a whole lot of elections , including the control of the Senate throughout the '90s and definitely the presidential race. There are campaigns to fix these bans, including a bill in the House.
But it's hard to get the American public to give a shit about voting at all, much less the voting rights of criminals. Georgia State Board of Pardons and Paroles. The [parole officer] can show up at your place of employment, drug test you whenever they want, search your home and vehicles without a warrant. Wayne recalls his year-and-a-half on parole as a series of bullshit forms he had to submit, letting authorities know about every mile he drove and every dollar he spent. He wore a drug-testing patch on his arm; this spat out a false positive when he had to take meds for a kidney stone.
But maybe the weirdest part was the total ban on drinking alcohol. Alcohol is legal, he'd never had any kind of drinking problem, and his offenses hadn't involved alcohol in any way -- but the rules still said no liquor.
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People are usually surprised when they learn that Wayne's an ex-con, but most aren't judgmental. Maybe that's because he was in for drugs, and people are gradually realizing drug laws are stupid. Still, most don't care at all: Wayne's grandmother came to visit recently, bearing an heirloom rifle as a gift. As a felon, Wayne couldn't accept the gun he's a non-violent felon, but that's the law , but the news didn't shake grandma. She just said, "I don't care what he did in the past, as long as he's not in trouble now. No law against that The longer you spend in prison, the harder it is to get back to normal.
Chris says the TV show Rectify is really good at showing how socially awkward prisoners are in the real world. I carried that with me into the free world. When Chris' second wife left him, she got full custody of their daughter easily. The last time he saw the girl, she was convinced that her stepdad was her father.
To them, I was and will always be someone who did bad things, did drugs, and went to prison. Wayne's got a girlfriend now, and he's thankful for the support system he has. Chris lives next door to the town mayor, and he's on wife number three. He's at least dealing with his past with a sense of humor: Follow Menezes on Twitter for stuff cut from articles and other things no one should see. Tickets on sale here!
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I am in my late 20s and a professional woman. I work in an extremely conservative arena and I have 2 masters degrees. I met a guy that is over all perfect, BUT he has a felony. He did 4 years hard time and is still on probation. He is sweet, caring, funny, etc. He is trying to get his life together but every week there is some issue with him not paying his bills or his friends. He is a 32 and back in school but he is so ruff around the edges I am afraid to bring him around my friends or professional colleagues.
Also is felony prevents me from having my gun in my house if he is there and he cannot vote. He wants to get the felony "erased" but it costs a lot of money that he does not have. I know I can find a guy without a felony but I am not a spring chicken. Do you guys think I should continue seeing him or stop before anyone gets hurt?
Mar 25, 2. Mar 25, 3. He did time for what?
A professional seriously dating a man with a felony?
Mar 25, 4. It does not cost a lot to have a felony sealed in most states and to get his voting rights restored. Usually there is a wait time though, so you have to wait some years to get it done. Anyway, I don't think I could do it personally. If you are saying he's rough around the edges, I mean whats that even mean? It sounds like he still might have the propensity to do something criminal.
If you are in your late 20s, that is not old. Don't waste your time on some dude who turns out to be a loser in the end.
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Mar 25, 5. If you haven't already, check his background yourself to verify what he has told you.
He sounds like a two time felon to me. So yea he appears to be everything you want in a man. A professional woman that apparently can't swim with sharks because if you could you wouldn't have one circling around you getting ready to bite that ass any moment now. He's probably been leeching off women since he was in prison. It might start off all good, but it'll become burdensome quick. Especially after he loses all shame of being needy. It's a good sign that he's in school depending on what you mean by that.
The only thing worst them him having a felony is if he has no ambition. I suggest you run, but if you decide to stick around don't give him shit. Don't give him a place to stay and don't give him any money because there's a good chance he's just a leeching ass fraud. Mar 25, 6. Mar 26, 7. I think it is admirable that you gave this guy a chance. Most women in your position wouldn't.